TruthFire Coaching Group

For empathic people to create electric intimacy by inhabiting their deepest desires, boundaries, and instincts.

TruthFire

TruthFire is a four-month alchemical container for empaths.

Together, we heal old unconscious relationship beliefs and create fulfilling intimacy by recognizing and voicing our truths.

It’s not so much a “support group” as a pack of bright-eyed laughter-lovers who are creating relationships of radical honesty, ease, and meaning.

The next four-month group launches November 6. Currently there are 4 slots remaining.

“This was ridiculously useful. I thought that I needed to fix something to have better relationships. I don’t. I love growth but I don’t need to contort myself to make things work. Wow. Getting out of that pattern felt so good.. and this group made it both possible and fun (though it was challenging at times).”

-Kelsey Hargrave, TF participant

 TruthFire Testimonials

 

The TruthFire Process

The path to fulfilling intimacy for empathic, sensitive people is a little revolutionary.

We tend to under-focus on our own truths (heartfelt desires, boundaries, emotions)… and then wonder why we feel unseen, exhausted, and like intimacy could hold so much MORE magic.

Our key to intimacy is getting in touch with the truths that live in our core and lead to feeling like our most alive, fulfilled, and energized self.

It’s like music- when you learn to listen and hear your own truths then you can start to dance with them.

You can name your boundaries, skillfully invite others into your electric desires, and experience the radical confidence that develops from using your voice and being seen for ALL of who you are.

TruthFire is the place to make this shift. 

Together, we heal a ridiculous amount of old relationship beliefs… and put an end to repetitive, painful relationship dynamics.. so we can create the connection we dream of. 

“I have worked so hard to “understand my relationships” without ever noticing my deep desires and boundaries. This is so RELIEVING. My experience of relationships is so different now. There’s a journey ahead, and I am excited for it. I know I am headed in the right direction now. Doing this with the TruthFire team was amazing.”

-Nya Elan, TF participant

This is for you if:

  • You feel that you “lose a sense of self” in relationships.

  • You people-please. A lot. And it’s not fun. You’re ready to be done with it.

  • You want wayyyy more playfulness and joy in your connections.

  • You are passionate and romantic, yet always seem to be processing issues rather than joyfully catching fire.

  • You know you have a deep capacity for intimacy… but the deep connection you envision never seems to come together for long.

  • You keep ending up in the same unpleasant relationship dynamics (romance, friends, family, etc).

  • You avoid conflict by holding back important desires, boundaries, and emotions.

  • You feel exhausted and unseen by the way you “manage” relationships.

What’s Included?

  • Seven group coaching zoom sessions over four months (logistics below).

  • A 90-minute 1-1 session with Nick, scheduled before the end of the program.

  • WhatsApp group for questions and celebrations between sessions. Nick is on this group Monday to Friday to answer questions.

  • Optional TruthFire learning partner for extra support.

  • Explorations, resources, and tools to help you unlock your inner truths and desires.

The Challenge:

Being super clear and honest about what you want (and don’t want) in a relationship can feel out of reach, especially if YOU aren’t clear on what you want.

And empathic people usually have old patterns to ignore their own needs and over-focus on other people.

But there is nothing wrong with you.

We were each given limiting stories about what we are allowed to ask for, the space we can take up, the level of joy and inspiration and honesty we can embody.

These stories can get in the way of hearing and expressing the music of who you are.

Fortunately, the confidence to recognize and voice your truth is a skillset- It’s not a talent or an inherent trait.

That means you can learn this ability. It comes with practice. 

And when you can do it, connection stops being about management and starts being about honesty, play, and enjoyment.

TruthFire is the place to learn to make this transition with as much ease and joy as possible.. while part of an empathic team that gets you and is cheering you on the whole way.

This is relevant whether you are dating, building new friendships, transforming your romantic relationship, or wanting more ease with your family.

The Purpose of This Group

  • Get clear on what you actually want and develop the courageous skill to follow it.

  • Say “no” more often to things you don’t want.. and have fun doing it.

  • Connect with the instinctual, wise animal in your core, that wants to love, laugh, and live more freely and easily.

  • Build the skill of knowing your truths (desires, boundaries, instincts) from moment-to-moment.

  • Clear out your unconscious rules for who you are supposed to be for others.. and who others are supposed to be for you.. so you can actually relax and enjoy intimacy.

  • Overcome the fear of rejection and develop bone-deep confidence through authenticity.

  • Let go of being the manager of your relationships… or tolerating your relationships… so you can playfully lean into your full YES and NO in connection.

  • See the reality of your relationships, rather than what your worries or blind spots are telling you.

  • Be part of a big hearted community of empaths who get it and can help you navigate challenges and create electric intimacy.

In this intimate coaching group, you’ll be with ~7 other big-hearted folks like you who are dedicated to deeply fulfilling intimacy both romantically and otherwise. I (Nick) will be coaching you in a group setting to have breakthroughs, and the group will be getting coached (directly and indirectly) as each person gets coached.

 

Who is the Facilitator?

Nick Shrewsbury

I am an ICF-certified relationship coach, RYT-200 yoga teacher, and a certified mediator. I’ve been a group facilitator for over a decade.

I am also an empath and all-around sensitive human being. My first and best teachers were the wolves and horses of Mission:Wolf, who taught me that sensitivity, honesty, and directness are profound gifts. Today, you can find me playing harmonium, creating wild rituals in the forest with friends, or harvesting edible food.

I love creating this group. It’s the fifth cohort- so far we have had intentional divorces, engagements, new relationships started, estrangements healed, people coming out of the closet for the first time.. I love what happens when empaths come together with the intention to hold each other and tell the truth.

I originally created and co-facilitated this group with my past romantic partner Noëlle Janka (who is a great coach.. www.noellejanka.com) after we broke up because the practice of radical honesty was a deep part of our relationship, breakup, and current friendship.

Why am I teaching this?

The practice of radical honesty has brought deeply joyful intimacy to my relationships.

Before this, I used to have lots of unconscious rules for myself. For example, I believed “it's not okay to share anything that might burden other people"… even if that was my exciting desire for adventure, or my frustration, or my pain.

That wreaked havoc in many of my relationships as I held back my voice, my frustrations, my desire to end relationships, and my unhappiness so as "not to burden" another person.

I just focused on making sure they were happy. I thought that was how relationships “had to be” and if I worked hard enough it would all work out.

My partners were generally deeply confused because they knew something was wrong but could never figure out what it was. It resulted in lots of "processing" conversations that never went anywhere because I never voiced the actual problems.

I was really creating this cycle. And skillful transparency/honesty was the way out.

Once I developed this practice of radical honesty, my relationships responded immediately. I was far more fulfilled as I discovered the capacity to be seen for all of who I am. To be seen in the mess, without perfection.

And the people who wanted to celebrate ALL of me found their way into my life.

We will practice this philosophy together in TruthFire.

This coaching group is a whole-hearted, playful, practical space to transform all the unconscious rules you have for your relationships within a deeply supportive community.

I am non-monogamy and kink literate, in case those are part of your life, or areas you wish to explore. It’s a sex-positive space.

The TruthFire Curriculum

Note: Each session will have time for teaching concepts and for group coaching where each person can bring specific challenges to process. Click below to expand each month.

  • 😈 Shadow Dynamics: Develop clarity on the unique shadow dynamics that have been holding back your relationships… perhaps for much of your life

    😊 Befriending: Learn how to befriend your inner world, rather than battling with it, so this journey of transformation can be enjoyable.

    🌏 Personal Vision: Recognize the new life and connection you are now creating through this group… and the person you are becoming

    ⚡️ Embodied Yes/No: Daily meditation for developing a felt sense of your full YES and full NO so you have a compass to rely on in real-time, every day.

    🌱 Yes/No Practice: Begin playing with your Yes/No in your relationships and using TruthFire as a space to troubleshoot.

  • 🦋 Using Your Voice: Practice voicing your truths (which is often vulnerable) with your TruthFire team to build the muscle for expressing yourself in authentically relationships.

    🦅 Healthy Conflict: Lean into relationship conflict and healthy anger as an essential process that can create MORE intimacy.

    ✨ Follow Joy: Relax and enjoy transforming your relationships by detecting the relationship steps/possibilities that pull you forwards rather than pressuring yourself.

    🌺 Action: Take aligned steps to begin creating more authenticity, intimacy, and transformation in the relationships you choose.

  • 🦦 Embodied Confidence: Connect with the deep, gutteral confidence that comes from listening to your heart and voicing your truths over and over.

    🌊 The Beauty of Grief: Develop your relationship with the valuable (and often rejected) “negative” emotions of anger, sorrow, and fear so your relationships can thrive in all weather.

    🙌🏼 Troubleshooting: Coaching space to receive support with the challenges, questions, dilemmas that naturally arise when we make changes in our life.

    🌺 Action: Continuing to find opportunities to use your voice, be seen for who you are, name your desires, and set boundaries one step at a time.

  • 🌙 Intuition: Learn a practice to discern the voice of your instinctual intuition.

    🔥 TBD Session: The group will choose a focus for a session. Past groups have chosen sex and honesty, enjoying healthy conflict, or developing clear relationship agreements (rather than secret expectations).

    🥳 Celebrations and Closure: We will have a group celebration time to be seen for all you have achieved and to cement your progress.

    🌺 Final Actions: We will look at what is next for you and how this TruthFire philosophy will live in your life over the next year.

Logistics

The upcoming cohort runs from November 6 through February 5.

Time Commitment:

Group sessions: 4hr/month

Sessions are Monday nights, 5-7pm MT, running November 6 and 20, December 4 and 18, January 8 and 22, and February 5.

Optional TF partner work: 1hr/month

TruthFire partner call to practice skills, reflect, and process.

Practices and coaching actions: 30mins/wk

Time for TruthFire practices or taking action on something you discovered from coaching.

Investment

The investment to enroll is $1900 or 3 payments of $650 over three months.

VIP Coaching Package // there are two seats available for a TF deep dive that includes 1:1 coaching sessions and unlimited voice-memo access to Nick, discounted from his normal 1-1 package — mention this in your application if this is of interest.

Scholarship Places // There are two scholarships available for BIPOC individuals. Mention this in your application if this is of interest.

If you have any questions, email me at nick@nickshrewsbury.com. I’m happy to make a time to talk with you.

FAQ

How is coaching different from therapy?

Coaching is similar yet distinct from therapy. 

In this group, we will not spend a lot of time talking about the distant past. 

This is not a space to heal from depression, etc. Counseling is a better fit for that type of support.

Instead, in this group we will mostly be focused on the present moment and how you can be most alive and connected in your life right now.

It will help you to resolve insecurity and doubt, crystallize what is most important to you, and take aligned action to create a life that lights you up more deeply than ever before.

What if I am single? Or in a partnership? Is this for me?

You are welcome to participate in this program as an individual or with a partner or partners. 

I welcome all genders, sexualities, and relationship configurations. 

If you have any questions about whether or not this group will be a good fit, please send an email or set up a time to chat with me. 

In essence, the skills of standing openly in your truths and creating connection with authenticity are the same whether you are happily single, dating, or in partnership. There are just little nuances.

This type of radical authenticity creates the best chance of igniting passion and a foundation for a long-term, joyful connection (if that is your desire). 

Is there a refund if I want it?

I don’t offer refunds for this group. Committing the funds to the group is a part of the internal process of committing to what you want to get out of it. That intention creates the strongest possible foundation for deep transformation in the group. If you have any questions about that email me at nick@nickshrewsbury.com.

How are you planning to support participants with different identities? 

I am cis, white, and have mostly been in hetero relationships. I acknowledge that despite my best efforts to be inclusive and hold space for different identities and experiences, my perspectives are limited. As a coach, I am here to help you embody your own wisdom and answers. You are the authority on your own truths. I’ve found this approach to be very spacious and supportive for people from many different backgrounds. 

That said, I understand that it can feel nice to have a coach who “gets it,” and will happily refer you to coaches with other identities if you see that would be more aligned for you!

How will this help my sex life?

The authentic intimacy I teach is a way to deepen passion, pleasure, and connection in your sex life, whether you are dating or in a long term partnership. Being able to clearly ask for what you desire and to be on fire with your truth (and your pleasure) is the way to create an energized sex life.

Everything else, all other skills, flow from this basic foundation.

You can develop the confidence to stand in your truth through practice.

That kind of confidence is deeply fulfilling and exciting.

It’s also very hot.

Will this help family, friendship, or work relationships?

This experience is 110% applicable.

I actually invite participants to bring up any relationship challenges they may be experiencing (with a partner, a mother, a brother, a friend) because the process of living in alignment with your truth is universal.. And it’s best to practice it in real-world situations. 

When you build the muscle of creating connection with authenticity and clear communication, all of your relationships will start to become more easeful, fulfilling, and joyous. 

Can this help rekindle passion in a long-term partnership?

The process of clarifying what you actually desire and communicating it with compassionate skill sparks passion and life in relationships.

Part of what I teach is how to invite other people into your desires in a way that is accessible and welcoming, rather than isolating or judgmental. I also have some juicy tips ;) for how to shift patterns of feeling bored and discovering doorways to new possibilities.

How does this apply to non-monogamy?

This group supports people who want to be in a monogamous or non-monogamous relationship.

Creating deep intimacy based on your truths is the best source of passion, aliveness, love, and freedom in connection…

Whether that is a monogamous or non-monogamous relationship.

What if speaking my truth ends my relationship?

If you feel sharing your truth (a beautiful desire, a heartfelt boundary, etc) may lead to the end of a relationship, there are a few things to consider.

  1. You might be wrong :). Because we have all received lots of training that we need to hide parts of ourselves, we often assume that other people “can’t handle” all of who we are. And it can be breathtaking to discover we are wrong. This group helps maximize your ability to share all of who you are in a way that welcomes others rather than distancing them.

  2. Sometime expressing our truths does lead to the end of relationships. This is a natural part of life. People can grow in different ways. If a relationship cannot hold all of who you are.. and you have to work hard to hide yourself day in and day out.. how long do you want to live with that stress? In this group, you will receive lots of support to be in your heart and take the courageous steps you need to create a life (and relationship) that is deeply fulfilling because it is filled with YOU.